Wanna know why I’m such a stand for men?

Because while there’s never an excuse for abusive behaviour, the truth is…

A lot of what we call retaliation is just that - a reaction, right?

But do you wanna know why he blew up?

Because you poked.

Because you goaded.

Because you picked the fight, whether you consciously meant to or not.

And I say that with no judgement either

Because I’ve done it... Over and over and over again.

I can look back at so many fights with my partner that escalated into chaos…

And every damn time - it started with me

Because I was triggered

I antagonised.

I wanted the drama.

I needed someone to blame for the hurt I was carrying…

And I wanted to hurt him before he could hurt me

And what breaks my heart is seeing this exact thing play out through children.

Mothers using their kids as pawns to punish their ex

Weaponising motherhood to feed the pain, the resentment, the story of “I’m the good one, he’s the bad one”

Honestly, hearing stories like this makes me SICK.

So you’ll find me saying this till I’m blue in the face:

Women are wolves dressed as sheep

Our antagonism doesn’t roar… it slithers

It’s quiet.

It’s sneaky.

It’s an eye-roll…

The silent treatment, the last word…

The refusal to take any responsibility because “he should just know better.”

But when you really start to look, when you have the courage to own your part…

You can’t unsee it anymore

We’ve been taught to fear men’s reactions while completely ignoring the ways we provoke them

This is not about blame - I dont play in those stories.

It’s about TRUTH.

It’s about taking our power back !

NOT by controlling them, but by owning ourselves - OUR contribution

Because that’s where the real healing begins ❤️‍🔥