About Becoming
OR: HOW I LEARNED TO STOP WAITING FOR THE OTHER SHOE TO DROP
I grew up watching my mum endure infidelity, compulsive lying and emotional chaos. And that kind of instability left a mark on me... especially on my nervous system. This became the baseline I carried into every relationship, every room... every version of myself I was trying to become.
At 15, I found myself in the same situation.
I became a mum at 17. By 23 I had two children and was eight years deep in a relationship full of heartbreak, anxiety and the kind of soul-eroding stress that makes you question who you are and whether trying is even worth it anymore.
I spent years in survival. bracing. Just waiting for the next hurt and the rug to be pulled out from underneath me.
That was my baseline, and I didn't even know it.
Eventually, I started doing the real work. And it changed everything.
I had to make the hardest decision of my life - break the cycle, walk away, and choose a different path. Not just for me, but for my babies too.
Today we co-parent with love and respect. I'm with a man who is genuinely phenomenal. We have a beautiful, blended family of six - wild, loud and full of so. much. love.
But here's what I need you to hear: the relationship isn't the prize. My aliveness is.
And getting here didn't happen because I found the right person or finally got my life together... on the outside. It happened because I went underneath it all. I went into the body, into the original wound and into the belief I'd been carrying since childhood that the world wasn't safe and I wasn't enough.
That's where it actually changed.
And now I do this work with women.
Not surface work. Not reframing or coping strategies or learning to communicate better - though those things have their place.
I mean the underneath work. Finding the pattern, tracing it to the root, and meeting the original belief that's been quietly running the show without you even realising it.
The women I work with are self-aware. They've done the therapy, read the books, had the breakthroughs. And something still hasn't shifted. They're generally high-functioning... and hollow. Present but not really there. They're just going through the motions of a life that looks fine from the outside.
That's not a them problem. That's a depth problem.
I'm a counsellor and aliveness coach with 7 years experience the industry and I work somatically - which means we don't just talk about what's happening. We go into the body, into the felt sense of it, into the place where the belief actually lives.
Because that's the only place it actually changes.
If you're ready to stop surviving and start feeling alive in your own skin -
I'm here.