R A N T I N C O M I N G 🔥

You keep blaming him…

But sis, maybe you’re the walking red flag.

You’ve told your friends he doesn’t open up to you.

You’ve cried to your mum that he “just doesn’t get it.”

You’ve told the women’s Facebook group that he “doesn’t change no matter what you say or do.”

You’ve replayed every argument with the disclaimer: “He’s the problem.”

But let’s be REAL:

You’re not some poor angel in a toxic love story.

You’re the one picking the fight.

Shutting down. Keeping score.

Punishing him with your cold shoulder and righteous silence.

You want depth but can’t even tell the truth about how you feel.

You want connection but treat vulnerability like it’s a threat.

You want him to change while you stay exactly the same.

So you don’t have to look in the mirror and confront your pain, heartbreak, trauma, fear.

You’re not just scared of being hurt.

You’re scared of being seen.

So you perform;

Manipulate.

Blame.

Because it’s easier than being honest & vulnerable.

Do you wanna know what I call that?

A wolf in sheep’s clothing.

It’s emotional immaturity.

Poor resilience.

It’s you looking like the calm one...

But underneath?

You’re causing chaos - and calling it “communication.”

It’s time to drop the act.

Stop pretending he’s the bad guy…

When you’re the one pulling the strings and placing highly unfair expectations on him.

If that hits a nerve - GOOD.

That’s where the healing starts.